Wax & flame are thermodynamics applied to trust. The standard is simple: predictable temperature, disciplined distance, visible exits. We do not improvise with fire; we execute structure.

• Wax type: paraffin and soy blends with lower melt points are preferred. Beeswax and gel candles run hotter; avoid for skin.
• Color & fragrance: heavy pigments and fragrance oils can raise temperature and irritate skin. Prefer light/unscented. Never use crayons or glitter on skin.
• Containers & wicks: use stable containers; avoid thin glass that can shock-crack. Cotton wicks preferred; avoid metal-core if unknown.
• Never pour while lit: extinguish with a snuffer before pouring. Flame on the move is fuel plus surprise.

Standard: If you don’t know the melt point, you don’t pour.

• Tools: IR thermometer, metal spoon for test drips, timer.
• Targets: aim for ~50–54°C (122–129°F) at the moment of skin contact. Do not exceed ~60°C (140°F).
• Test path: drip from intended height onto a spoon, then tap the spoon to inner forearm for 1 sec. If it’s too hot there, it’s too hot anywhere.
• Thermal lag: wax cools in the air; pour height changes temperature on contact. Measure and be consistent.

• Height: begin at 8–12 inches; adjust based on test. Higher = cooler on impact; lower = hotter.
• Stream: steady, thin streams disperse heat; fat blobs concentrate it. Stir or swirl to equalize temperature before each pour.
• Remove flame: snuff, then move over skin. Keep flame away from hair, fabrics, and vapors.
• Zones: pour over fleshy areas (upper back, glutes, lateral thighs). Avoid face, neck, joints, armpits, groin, and any “healing” areas.

Standard: Height and angle are dosage devices—use them like instruments.

• Dry skin: water pops and splatters hot wax; dry the surface fully.
• Barriers: a light, non-oily barrier (silicone-based) can ease removal and reduce bite; oils near open flame are fuel—avoid.
• Hair management: secure hair; protect with caps or towels. Wax grabs hair aggressively.
• Drop zone: cover surfaces; keep extinguishing lid/snuffer within reach.

• Snuff, don’t blow: blowing can scatter sparks and molten wax. Use a snuffer or lid.
• Extinguishers: keep an ABC extinguisher or fire blanket nearby. Smother small container fires; do not throw water on wax fires.
• Environment: clear 1 m radius of fabrics/papers; ventilate; tie back hair; no aerosols or alcohol on skin.
• No accelerants: do not use fuels/solvents on skin. This doctrine does not teach fuel-based flame play.

Standard: Fire is either contained or it’s theater. We do not perform theater.

• Tiered signals: Adjust / Pause / Stop mapped to verbal and nonverbal cues.
• CCTS scan: Color, Capillary refill, Temperature, Sensation/motor—repeat every few pours and at position changes.
• Rotation: move zones; avoid stacking heat on fresh wax.
• Time discipline: set a timer for cooling intervals and total exposure.

• Removal: let cool fully; lift edges and peel along skin lines. For stubborn spots, briefly warm with low hairdryer to release—never scrape.
• Skin care: cleanse gently; apply fragrance-free moisturizer. Avoid heat on marked areas for 24 h.
• Recovery cadence: T+12/T+24/T+72 status checks; document what restored fastest.

Education here is not medical advice. Seek qualified care when necessary.

Stop and evaluate if you observe: blistering, white/charred skin, spreading redness, loss of sensation, severe pain, or disorientation.

• First steps: cool the area under cool running water 10–20 minutes (do not ice). Do not pop blisters.
• Escalate: seek professional care; document wax type, temperature, pour height, and time on skin.

• Pre-brief: wax type, target zones, pour heights, ceilings, signals, stop rule.
• Active consent: re-check at escalation points and position changes.
• Ledger: record temperatures, responses, recovery notes; adjust ceilings by evidence.

Pre-Wax Brief (60 seconds)

1. Purpose & outcome. Ceilings for temperature and duration.
2. Wax type & test drip result. Pour height to start.
3. Signals (verbal + nonverbal) and stop rule.
4. Follow-up time set now.

Pour Cadence (2 minutes)

1. Three test pours at starting height across large muscle group.
2. Hold 30–60 s; CCTS scan; adjust height/tempo.
3. Progress with rotation; no stacking heat.

Extinguish & Close

“Snuff. Cool. Breathe with me. We return to neutral first, then we speak. You are safe; we are complete.”

Dominant Standards

• Know the melt point. Snuff before you move.
• Control height, angle, and time with precision.
• Enforce signals; treat ambiguity as pause.
• Carry snuffer, extinguisher/blanket, and cooling plan.
• Record outcomes; adjust by evidence.

Partner Standards

• Report heat and sensation truthfully and early.
• Use signals exactly as negotiated.
• Follow recovery cadence; log responses and changes.

Heat teaches only when it’s contained. We select materials for predictability, run fire like a system, and close with intention. Authority here is precise and accountable.

Not Kink. Discipline.